"My story is important not because it is mine, God knows, but because if I tell it right, the chances are you will recognize that in many ways it is also yours. Maybe nothing is more important than that we keep track, you and I,of these stories of who we are and where we have come from and the people we have met along the way because it is precisely through these stories, in all their particularity,as I have long believed and often said, that God makes himself known to each of us most powerfully and personally." -Frederick Buechner



Thursday, August 18, 2011

How to Stay Committed to Your Relationships

So this thing called covenant relationship is kind of "sticky" at best.  It's easy as long as your partner is nice, cooperative and agrees with you but we all know that doesn't happen all the time even in the best of friendships. I love my husband. We are friends. We laugh at alot of the same stupid things. We are easily entertained. We both think our kids are the best. However when we're cleaning the storage room and he's packing the boxes in so tight you can't get your fingers between them because "it makes the best use of space" he drives me crazy!  Should I abandon him at that point? Of course not, but what about when the issue is more important. What about when you feel you are not being valued or have been betrayed? Then is it okay?
That's not how God does it. God sticks with us even when we don't stick with Him. God loves us even when we don't speak up when someone at work is harming others by not doing their job properly. He loves us even when we lose our temper and say hurtful things to our kids or spouse. He hangs in there and continues to communicate with us. He does that because He loves us and He knows us inside and out. He knows what He created us to be.  I believe it's alot about really knowing those you are committed to. Granted we don't need to know those we only work with as well as our own family members but we do need to know them within the context of work.
Think about this a bit. Who is it easy to defend and/or forgive in your life?  Chances are good it's those you know and care about the most. I'm challenging you to get to know those you are committed to even better. I believe all relationships are life long learning situations. People do not stay the same. We all have seasons in our lives which change some of our perspectives. We need to study those we love so we are aware when they change. These changes effect our relationships.  We recently taught a class on the marriage relationship.  Several couples had been married more than 40 years.  I was so encouraged that they still wanted to learn and grow in their relationship.  One couple said we "want to learn to have more fun in our relationship."  Isn't that great! We are NEVER too old to learn or to love.
God's love for us is "new every morning. Great is His faithfulness." That's our example for our relationships.  Have a great day studying and loving those around you!

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